[EXPOSED Day 2 – #exposeyourtruth]
What I see a lot on social media is people being RIGHT and making others WRONG based on their own beliefs and values, completely oblivious to the fact that their disagreement is not about right and wrong, but about the question of values and beliefs.
It is also suggested these beliefs are concrete and permanent (most are not).
Let’s just step back a second and ask ourselves – where did my values/beliefs come from anyways?
At one time, you were a baby 👼🏽 just minutes old, a clean blank slate. Save for a few DNA traits all your own, you had no language, no particular beliefs, and were unaware you even had a value system. And from that day forward the values and belief system you were born into and raised by would begin to impress upon your form.
• You learned language.
• You learned to walk and to run.
• You learned to sit down and shut up!
• You learned to socialize and form relationships.
• You learned what “acceptable” behaviour was.
• You learned what happened if it was NOT!
And on the list goes on … There were some things you learned too that you may have been unaware of:
🖍• You learned what it was to be a bad boy/bad girl.
🖍• You learned how this disappointed or angered people around you
🖍• You weren’t love as much then – or not at all …
🖍• You had to behave a certain way be “good enough” for attention and love
And so the undercurrent of programming happened – like the operating system of a computer. Most people forget entirely about the OS until there is a breakdown!
All of this is so subtle and hidden and NORMAL as a human, we don’t even realize how deep it runs. Our beliefs and values and how we behave gets formed for us. We feel trapped and unhappy and form addictions to food and to drugs and electronics – to numb out and feel better for a while.
🍬🍬🍬What changed for me?
What I see differently now is when another either agrees or disagrees with my perceptions – I try not to make it MEAN anything for me. I do my best to not let it trigger me.
Their beliefs and values are simply the culmination all their life experience and their acceptance of it. It doesn’t make them RIGHT or WRONG. It doesn’t make ME right or wrong … It is simply a perception, worthy of acknowledgement, validation, and perhaps an intelligent conversation can occur from there. Maybe. 🙂 LOL
As to my coaching clients – when they are having an issue with something – whether it be accounting or social media or marketing – it is often an underlying issue that is waiting to be revealed.
• “Procrastination” often reveals fear.
• “I can’t” really means – I don’t want to or I don’t know how
• Hiding or avoiding something to be confronted often means “I’m not good enough”.
Lashing out and belittling another for their opinions often masks insecurity or pain – hurt people, well, they hurt people. 🤬
So with social media the way it is right now – all so seemingly public – where people are so brave behind their keyboards – do take the time and consider what is behind the words, where did it come from? What is hiding behind the keyboard bravado?
What you see may astound you!
Consider having compassion in your response – or compassion for yourself and not respond at all. <3 My two cents! Much love, Tracy [#exposeyourtruth]
