Do you feel like you must filter between what you think and what you say and what you do?
I sure did. And sometimes still do. And so I began to first self-seek on this. What is it that makes me think things that I would not dare say out loud or act on? Why must I constantly filter through who is going to think what about me, or who is going to take offense?
And then it occurred to me – I was looking outside of myself for validation and approval. To change this, I set on the path of looking to ME first.
Now, I am not advocating going around being an asshole and intentionally “offending” people, but I have now given myself the same respect – that what I think and feel and believe MATTERS TOO.
I have also taken the responsibility for myself to not go around being offended by every little thing, and realize that if something hurts – I feel offended, it is really something in ME that is lacking power. I take full responsibility for my feelings. I take full responsibility for my actions. It also means strong boundaries have come into play.
I am a work in progress, and as I venture on this journey, I seek better alignment between my thoughts, my feelings, my actions – and I give my approval to myself.
Your thoughts?
